HELP! I'm in a pickle!!
Today I got a phone call from the Principal at Mount Gravatt State School. He offered me full time work starting next week until the end of the year... And I don't know what to do...
There are many pros and many cons... So I thought I'd get everyones opinions... But before you leave your opinions, I'd like to let you know what sort I am after. I don't want any fence sitters (please) coz I'm already doing that and it's not helping me to make my decision. If you say yes or no, could you please outline some good reasons... Sorry, don't mean to sound like a hard arse, but this is the sort of thing that I need to make a real decision.
Why am I fence sitting?
Well, obviously, if I go back to work full time, I will miss out on Ellianah's first year. I will be devistaed if I go to work and come home and Adam says "Elli said this today" or "Elli walked today" or "Elli was crying for you today". I know eventually I will have to commit to full time work and I will still miss some of her development, but will I regret missing the first year if I go back now.
Then there's me. I have also been using my spare time to get into my arts and craft. I have been painting everything that isn't nailed down and really enjoying it. I have been dieting and really looking after myself and I'm scared that if I start work now and get stressed and bogged down, that's the first thing that will suffer. I did tell myself that I would use this year for me so that when I started back at work next year, I wouldn't regret not using this time...
Plus If I work full time, I'm still a Mum with lots of house hold duties (i.e. washing, cooking, cleaning, shopping etc)...
Also, just as an added bonus, I'm paying a grand total or $20 tax a fortnight, on a taxable income of $346 for 2 days work... WOOT!!!
Then of course, there's the money. If I go back to work full time, I will be earning at least $1200 a fortnight (which is EXCELLENT money) and while I am not DESPERATE for the money, I do need the money (If that makes any sense??) I'd earn about $10 200 and save at least $5 100 of that.
It's a fantastic opportunity too! I'll be working with year 2 kids, learning a lot about lower school and there are a lot of special needs kids in that class which means a lot of hard work, but it also means excellent experience for the future. And just for another added bonus... It could also open doors for next year as well.
And just for a little more dilemma - I am torn between two schools. Crestmead and Mount Gravatt... I guess that is a whole other blog. But the gist of it is, I loved Crestmead like you wouldn't believe, but it was so long to get to and it's a HUGE school with lots of kids, but a very supportive staff. But Mount Gravatt is closer, smaller and more convenient. ARRGGGHHHH!!! What to do? What to do?? What to do???
So there yu have it... These are my dilemmas. What should I do????? The principal has made it very clear that he will totally understand if I say no, but at the same time, I am his first choice....
If you can offer me any help or at least shed some light... I'd be greatful!!
Love Née x x x
PS - Keep your eyes peeled for a PHRESH! blog.......
So back to you. We can help you weigh up all the pro's and con's but ultimately it is still going to come back to you.
My first question is what is the plan with the money? What do you need it for?
Secondly do you trust Adam with Elli 40-50odd hours a week? Can he afford to be 'stuck' at home during the week if he has meetings and stuff?
I guess if you work atleast if Adam commits suicide by not taking you to Tonga you can take yourself.
It would suck to miss time with Elli and I know you feel the same after your comments on Andrea's blog.
The soloution? Tie Elli down and gag her so she cant walk or talk and get your arse in the classroom and earn me some beer money woman! ;) ....poor Andrea.
Mount Gravatt certainly sounds more convinient, I could ride with you if you get yourself a bike.
Seriously toss a coin, you are going to regret it either way and I don't want that regret to be reflected on me. The only problem with that is you still have to decide what gets to be heads.
Have fun.
Ok...here goes....
I think you should stay at home for these reasons:
* You promised yourself that this would be family time for you. You wanted to spend this time with Elli and Adam and like you said you wouldn't be able to forgive yourself if Elli did something and you missed it. I think that you shoud spend the rest of the year being a mum like you had planned. Elli is at the age where she is constantly learning and you don't want to miss that.
* You are in the process of learning about yourself and enjoying being you. You are getting this whole diet thing happening and enjoying doing the things that you love to do...like the arty stuff. You should continue to have 'you' time until the end of the year because if you cut it short now you will not do the things that would have liked to do and then you will be at working thinking 'I wish I had done this...'.
* A while ago you told us that you had decided that if Crestmead offered you a job because you were not enjoying being at Mt Gravatt. I think you actually said that you hated it there. You were not enjoying the staff and you had come to the conclusion that you were there for the wrong reasons.
* I read this e-mail today and it was all about this rich dad sending his children to stay with a poor family on their farm for a few days. They came back realising how much more the poor people have because their lives do not revolve around money. They have their family and love and happiness and money is not important because they have all of these things (If I still have it I will forward it to you).
I guess from all of those things that you should stay at home is my solution....but just to throw a spanner in the works....are you going to ruin your chance of full time work next year if you don't take this. But that is a stupid comment because you said that the principal is very understanding either way.
So there you go...I hope that I have been of some help...maybe not the kind that you would like but that's all I could come up with.
P.S - Ed said that I have to say that he is a fantastic boyfriend ;-)
And really.... you can have a family anytime you want... there is only so much money in the world, grab what you can and worry about the rest later.
Anyway... thanks again... You have been the first person (apart from my Mum) to give me some REAL advice.... It's all very well to help someone see the pros and cons and tell them it's their choice in the end, but i already know all that shit... I want reasons for yes or no... if ya know what I mean... and in your case... you do know what I mean... hehehehe Love ya!!